"It’s Now or Never": Embracing Leadership After Paternal Leave

Balancing a career and family can feel like walking a tightrope. Monique, Head of Talent Acquisition at Raiffeisen Bank International, was drawn to lead the newly established recruitment team even before becoming a mother. Just after her maternity leave, with her child barely a year old, she embraced the challenge. However, initial excitement quickly met unexpected challenges.

18 July 2025 13:07
By Julia Laura Kauer
Banking career
People, Culture & Organization

What inspired you to apply for the Head of Talent Acquisition position after parental leave?

When my daughter was born, this was a turning point for me. It sparked a desire to provide her with the best future, pushing me to grow and explore new opportunities. I realized that stepping out of my comfort zone was essential and when I learned that the team lead position was vacant again, I knew it was a "now or never" moment.

After you got the team lead position, how did you feel initially?

I was excited to make a positive impact in my new role. My family stepped up at home, with my husband being my anchor and encouraging me to take this leap, which made the transition smooth. RBI's flexible hours and hybrid work options allowed me to create a workable schedule.

Though you faced difficulties after stepping into this new role. Why?

I met skepticism, mainly from other mothers in my personal surroundings, questioning how I could balance work and family. My path is considered unconventional in Austria, which also made me doubt myself. I felt the pressure to be available for my team while also being present for my daughter, struggling with my own expectations and the constant maternal guilt. Back in the days, my mum stayed at home with me until I was four.

How did you cope with these pressures?

Luckily, at RBI, all new leaders have access to coaching sessions where we can address all challenges we face. Having someone to guide me through this transition was invaluable. One key strategy I've implemented is setting clear boundaries, which has become my lifeline.

I completely disconnect after work hours and communicate openly with my team about my availability. Although it took some time for them to adjust, they now fully respect this approach, and I also model the flexibility I need by not expecting instant responses. Additionally, I've mastered time boxing for focused work, which helps me stay productive and present.

Reflecting on your journey, how has parenthood influenced your approach to leadership?

Having previously led at Apple, I find that becoming a mother has deepened my empathy and patience, highlighting the need for flexibility among parents. My daughter often sees familiar things from a fresh perspective; just last week, we watched ants go about their well-organized lives under the table. I strive to instill this mindset of curiosity and open-mindedness in my team, fostering innovation and inquiry that ultimately enables us to deliver greater value to the business.

Monique at lunch with her team after a retro

What is the most fulfilling part of being a leader for you?

I really enjoy helping my team tackle tough cases, dealing with tricky hiring managers, and finding solutions to unusual requests that come up every day. Seeing them grow and knowing that we navigate challenges together is incredibly rewarding.

What advice would you give to other working parents aspiring to move into management roles?

If a career opportunity arises, don’t assume you won’t be hired because you’re a part-timer or a new parent. You might surprise yourself with what’s possible. Embrace the journey and trust in your capabilities and don’t hesitate to ask for help. Try to ignore external judgments and don’t judge others for their path. Besides, I believe it would be valuable to expand the possibilities for shared leadership roles. It’s not just about time; it’s about sharing the pressure and responsibility and having someone to spare with.